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29 Margaret Turner, from left, Lillian Smith, Anne Murchison and Marietta Gwathmey stop for iced coffee at Café del Mar. card said, “25 percent off coffee.” Well who wants coffee after a 3-plus mile walk/run in 95-degree weather? We should’ve discounted any beverage and maybe added the word refreshing — though again, location, location, location would still have remained a problem. The second flaw was the problem that was the problem in the first place: the disturbing trend. We couldn’t give out enough cards because not enough people returned our greeting. Sad, isn’t it? What a sad commentary on our commu-nity, on the South, on our people. And then the doors closed forever at The Daily Grind. And we never even got to meet David Muir. Well, I don’t walk the Loop as much anymore since I’ve found swimming more accommodating for people of (ahem) a certain age, but my friends do say the disturbing trend gets more disturbing every day. People are less and less apt to make eye contact, much less greet each other. We’re all so busy and going so hard and fast and on our cell phones and worrying about our futures and what are we going to have for dinner and do I look fat in that? we don’t have time for greeting people or being nice. We Southerners talk about how diversity and the influx of other cultures is changing our own culture as people migrate south to enjoy our softer lifestyle and our warmer weather, bringing with them their own customs. My daughter Clare, who teaches in Raleigh, says she notices very few children now say Sir and Ma’am and Southern accents are rapidly fading away in our cosmopolitan capital city. So I guess the little green cards and our courtesy experiment on the Loop were up against a rock and a hard place to begin with. I’m not sure if niceness or what used to be known as genteelness will ever return to the South but I think we can all start with smiling more and scowling less. It seems to me that courtesy begins with happy countenances and that fact was brought home to me one day when I was driving through the New Hanover Center parking lot and stopped to allow a pedestrian to cross to the stores. A perfect stranger, she turned and waved and her face brightened in a megawatt smile which absolutely lifted me up and made my day. I realized what a simple thing she did and that it made me feel warm and glowy inside. So now when someone stops for me I wave and smile as brightly as I can … kind of like paying it forward, kind of like passing out little green cards. www.wrightsvillebeachmagazine.com WBM


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